In my previous post, I wrote about The 5 Destructive Effect of Fear! Please do check it out to understand the impact of letting your fear to control you. Now I am going to cover the recovery side of fear. Here are the 7 great steps to overcome fear!
1. Admit your Fears
You cannot overcome fear unless you first need to acknowledge them. What you should do, you need to make a list of your fear. If you are unable to do so, you may be still running from those feeling. Hence, you need to observe of your feeling. If your heart race for no reason, you feel paralysed into inaction and you feel nervous for no reason. These are the response due to fear. Do not overthink, write your fear down first! That is the first step.
2. Determine the Source of your Fears
All men should strive to learn before they die what they are running away from and to and why.
Fear also is known as False Expectations Appear Real. Most people`s fear is based not on facts, but on feeling. You need to look beyond the irrational feeling you may possess and discover the expectation that lies beneath them. Guess what, it does not exist! It is an imagination that created by the mind!
3. Acknowledge that fears limit you
Fear not that your life will come to an end but that it will never have a beginning.
That is what can happen if you let fear take over your life. Honestly, most of our fear are baseless. The rest are simple things we must learn to live with it. There are no guarantees in life. People look for things to protect them. It could be alarms, umbrellas, smartphone, GPS system, and cars with ABS system. Here is the fact, life is dangerous, damaging your health, and will eventually kill you. So you might as well live life to the fullest. Take that risk to overcome that fear!
4. Accept that Fear is the price of Growth
Believe it or not, every successful person in this world has jumped!
One of the secrets of success is not letting what you cannot interfere with what you can do. A strong proponent of positive thinking, Stone said that the secret to making sales was going where you do not want to go and doing what you do not want to do. You need to take that leap into the fear. Most importantly, do not let your fear keep you from taking small steps in your development. You never know where they might lead. It may unlock your potential within you.
5. Change fear into desire
The hero and the coward both feel exactly the same fear, only the hero confronts his fear and converts into fire.
Every negative emotion we feel can be converted into something positive to help us to grow in life.
Fear of poverty? Convert it to a positive work ethic.
Fear of greediness? Convert it to generosity.
Fear of rejection? Convert it to acceptance.
Fear of insignificance? Convert it to service of others.
People can turn their life around them by takings the very thing that once created fear and using the energy to do something positive and worthwhile. It is an always a choice to make to change your decision for a better option.
6. Focus on Things You can Control
There are always things that you cannot control in life. Guess what, there is no good reason to worry about those things. It can be very energy draining.
There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem.
The right question to asked, What can I do to be a Problem Solver? Always focus on the things that you can control. To do that, there are 2 things. First is the attitude. As you interact with people, you cannot control their action. No matter how much you like it. But you can control your attitude. Boys react, men respond. The second part of it is your calendar. You may not be able to control today, but you can do your best to plan the time you have. Most people who fear the future so so because they do not prepare for it.
7. Feed the Good and Starve the Bad!
It is a battle between FEAR and FAITH. Either one will arise within you. It is your choice to choose which one will triumph. These emotions will always be presents in you. The emotion you continue to feed is the one that will control your life. You cannot expect fear to simply disappear. If you continue to focus on your fears and entertain them, they will increase. The way to handle it is to starve them. Do not give your fears any of your time or energy. Do not feed them with gossip or negatives news. It can be very draining.
What you should do? Focus on your faith! Feed it with positive food. The more energy and time you give it. It will become stronger. At any point in time, if there is a spark of fear. Take action by go ahead and do it! By doing so, you are reprogramming your attitude. When there is fear, it means “GO” instead of “STOP”. When there is fear, it means “FIGHT HARDER” instead of “GIVE UP”.
Keep in mind, no matter how strong a hold fear may try to take on you, it can be overcome. Fear is just in mind and attitude can make a major difference. Most importantly, do the work and take action!
If you are not in control of your fear, the fear are in control of you!
Get an accountability buddy to help you to beat that fear! He or She must not be afraid of the fear that you are facing. If you are afraid of heights, your buddy must not be afraid of heights. If you are afraid of thunder, your buddy must not be afraid of thunder as well. Your buddy can help you to grow to faced fear. Your buddy can show you that it is alright to face it and the fear does not exist.
The content was taken from the Difference Maker, written by John C. Maxwell and with a spice of my thought. Definitely, a book to read and highly recommended for those who want to learn to manage their attitude.