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8 WAYS TO BOUNCE BACK FROM FAILURES

In my previous post, I wrote about the 4 REASONS WHY PEOPLE HAVE THE CANNOT-DO ATTITUDE. Please do check it out! For every setback is a setup for a comeback! Here are the 8 ways to bounce back from failure!

 

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1. CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE

People who succeed develop an attitude of tenacity. They refuse to quit, and they are determined not to let failure defeat them. If you desire to fulfill your dreams, achieve your goals, and live life to the fullest, that is the kind of attitude you need to cultivate. Take responsibility for your failure and learn from it.  You need to choose to respond, not react. Look at failure as a lesson, not a person.

2. CHANGE YOUR WORD

One of the two saddest words in the vocabulary are “if only.” People who get trapped in their whole lives saying “if only.” If only I had tried harder if only I am smarter if only I am rich and if only I am stronger. These words create a victim mindset. To be an achiever, your word needs to change. Substitute it with “next time.” Next time I will try harder, next time I will be smarter, next time I will be rich, and next time I will be stronger. Remember, failure is not a failure if you do better next time.

Let us look at another perspective, you can program your mind to look at failure as learning, growth, and opportunity. It may look like a small difference. However, it can make a big difference. With the right word, it can change your thought process. Start with questions, Why does this learning experience essential for my growth? How can I look at this as an opportunity? What can I learn from this experience so that I can do better next time?

3. LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES

Henry Ford stated, “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” For you to do that, you need to learn from your mistake first. From my experience working as an engineer, I have learned more from my failures than my success. I need to take the responsibility and accountability for my mistake. That way, it is my obligation to learn and execute a better solution. With the right choice of attitude, you will never lose, but you will learn.

Robert Kiyosaki

Something you win and something you learn!

4. LOOK AT FAILURE AS GROWTH

Micheal Jordon was one of the top basketball players of his era.  He won 6 NBA championship, and he was awarded six times MVP of the NBA final.  We can see his success, and his name became a brand, JORDAN. However, Micheal Jordan stated, “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” What we do not see was his failure. If he gives up, the brand Jordan will never be born.

The great understand the role failure plays in achievement. That is the truth, but not many people have the tolerance to accept that. The inventor, Thomas Edison said, “I’m not discouraged because every wrong attempt discarded in another step forward.” Whether it is millions of experiments that do not work or millions of falls from a balance beam, the milestones on the road to success are always the failure. Look at failure as growth! The farther you go, the more failure you experience.

Over time, you have to learn to see failure as a friend and a companion of success. If you`re not failing, then you probably are not A moving forward. You are just doing something safe and comfortable. Then, you will never grow!

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5. LAUGH ABOUT IT

They say laughter is the best medicine. It works well when you laugh of your failure. Laughter can change your state of mind into solution mode. Followed by the right question, Why? How? And What? There is no a person alive who would not benefit from a good laugh, especially when you`re doing something foolish. Remember, when you take your mistake too seriously, then everything seems to be life-and-death. If you have that mindset, it will drain you and sabotage you from your potential. The way to solve that is to laugh no matter how bad things get!

6. KEEP YOUR PERSPECTIVE RIGHT!

If you failed, you could be upset for a day. But today`s failure will not guarantee tomorrow`s failure. Learn and work your weakness. Same goes for success; you can celebrate for a day. But today`s success will not guarantee tomorrow`s success. Learn and improve your strength. Remember, failure is just like success. It is a day to day process. Failure is not a one-time event. It is how you respond to life along the way.  The fact is, you will make mistakes. However, you cannot conclude that you are a failure until you breathe your last. Now! Right now! You are still in the process. As long you are breathing, there is a still time to turn things around!

7. NEVER GIVE UP!!

Failure does not mean you will never succeed. It just means it will take longer. John Wayne line in the movie The Train Robber said, “You`re going to spend the rest of your life getting up more time than you`re knocked down, so you better start getting used to it.” That is what success is about! Japanese Proverb stated, “Fall seven times and stand up eight.” If you give up, you will never know. But if you give up you will never get there at all. All you need to start all again when you fall.

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8. PREPARE A RECOVERY PLAN!

Thomas  J. Watson Sr. the founder of IBM, was once asked how to succeed faster. He replied, ” If you want to succeed faster, you must double your rate of failure. Success lies on the far side of failure” The most crucial part is to respond. Do not ever react! Prepare a recovery plan. The formula always has been “Try, try again and then try again something else.”  An excellent way to start is starting with the right questions.  The great “What if”

Let’s say you are organizing events outdoors. You can ask yourself, “What if it rains?” The next question is, “What is my backup plan?” Should I prepare a tent? Let`s looks at bigger risks. You just bought a house which cost over 500,000USD.  The question you can ask yourself, “What if I am unable to pay the monthly installment?” The next question is “How can I afford the monthly installments?” Do I need to keep an eye on my budget spending? What other ways can I earn income besides my day job? How can I increase my salary? What do I need to get in the company?

Always start with a question to challenge yourself on what could go wrong in your particular tasks, works, projects, assignment and the list goes on. Start with the “What if?” Now, when it happens! Do not run! Take the accountability and immediately take action on your recovery plan. Do not afraid to seek help!

Most of the time, the impact of a recovery plan that leads you to success is sweeter compared to a smooth plan that leads you to success. 

Success is not an accident. Failure is also not an accident. Take that jump of your life and follow these steps to bounce back!

The content was taken from the Difference Makerwritten by John C. Maxwell and with a spice of my thought. Definitely, a book to read and highly recommended for those who want to learn to manage their attitude.

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4 REASONS WHY PEOPLE HAVE THE CANNOT-DO ATTITUDE

They are two type of people in the world; the “CAN” and “CAN`T.” The first type of people can achieve anything. They have the positive mindset and the CAN-do attitude. The second type of people will fail everything. They did not even start, they just say it cannot be done. They see failure in every result. If you are able to handle failure well, you can keep yourself away from the CANNOT-do attitude.

Henry Ford;

If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.

The question is, WHY do people have the CANNOT-do attitude? John C. Maxwell breaks it down to four main reasons;

1. They expect to fail!

Usually, the people who keep failing are the ones who expect to fail. Even before they begin a task, they already see the failure instead of success first. They are like the pessimist whose with a name tag on, “I expected this to fail”. Their mindset was programmed to fail.

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Sooner or later We will get what we expect!

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2. They take failure personally!

You cannot perform in a manner inconsistent with the way you see yourself. Everybody fails! But if they still continue to fail, they will expect to fail. In the end, they will label themselves as a failure. You need to understand there is a big difference between failing and being a failure.

If you want to maintain a good attitude and be successful, you cannot take your failure or even your success personally.  Failure is not so bad if it does not attack the heart. Success is all right if it does not go to the head. A failure is just an event. Guess what, same goes for success.  It is not a person. As we get older, gain more experience and gain more confident, you will realise that your failures are temporary and your successes do not define you completely as well.

3. They afraid to jump!

You have to jump to start living! If you don’t jump, you’re just existing.

To live life, you need to take some degree of risk! The fear of failure can sabotage a person. The fear of failure is deadweight of your potential. They will miss the great opportunity to win and achieve greatness!

Those who always jump first will get out on the edge of the comfort zone. That is the only way you will seize the opportunity. If you want to grow, you must embrace pain. If you want to unlock your potential, you will need to take chances and jump!  If you do not make that jump, you just existing in life! You choose!

 4. They let failure define them!

 Losing and winning are given event in life. Just because you lose today, it will NOT guarantee that you will lose tomorrow. But if you quit, it will guarantee that you will lose tomorrow! Whatever you do, do not every quite! However, you must prepare yourselves for failure. You should be ready to bounce back when it occur. That is what make the success worth it! Success without adversity is not a success.

Steve Davis

It may not be your fault for being down, but it is your fault for not getting up!

The content was taken from the Difference Makerwritten by John C. Maxwell and with a spice of my thought. Definitely, a book to read and highly recommended for those who want to learn to manage their attitude. My next post I will cover how can you prepare yourself to face failure! Follow my blog for more inspiration!

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