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Find your PASSION or Find your WHY?


“What is your passion? What do you like to do? You must find it and once you found it. You must work on it!”

That was the typical advice given my most successful people. I have to admit that is what I advise to other people as well. However, passion is an intense emotion, a compelling enthusiasm or desire for something. That is pretty much what you do. Over time, it becomes fuzzy and able dies off. The focus is so much on the WHAT and HOW. I realized it does not hit the core belief of doing things! In other words, the foundation is not strong enough to be persistence in building passion.

Then, I came across Simon Sinek TED Talk titled Start with WHY. The message conveyed by Simon very profound and deep as it connects directly to my core belief. I bought his first book, Start with Why to understand his concept of The Why. He talks about the naturally occurring pattern, a way of thinking, communication, and action that some leaders ability to inspire those around them. It helps people to focus on and amplify the passion in their work. When I said work, it does not mean 8 am to 5 pm day job only. It can be anything! Anything that requires work to make it happen. The WHY is what makes your work sustain day by day without fail. It differentiates between manipulation and inspiration.

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Simon Sinek developed a simple, yet profound concept known as the GOLDEN CIRCLE. Deep within the circle, it begins with the WHY. Then, followed by the HOW and finally the WHAT as shown in the following picture.

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The Golden Circle from Start with Why

Typically, everyone is able to explain the WHAT and the HOW? Not many people able to articulate the WHY? Let’s break it down!

The What

Almost every person knows What they do. This is your job title, function, the products you sell, and services that you provide.

The How

Some people know How they do it. These are the things you do that make you unique. It makes you different and unique among your peers.

The Why

Very few people know WHY they do what they do. Most people think they work because of money. But it is not about the money, money is the result. However, the Why is a purpose, cause, and belief. It is bigger than what we are. It acts as an anchor of your passion.  Your Why is the very purpose you exist.

The analogy Simon used was the marketing message from Apple. Let’s say we start from outside to the inside of the Golden Circle. Now the marketing message focus on the what and how only.

We make great computers! They are beautifully designed, simple to use and user-friendly. They are beautifully designed, simple to use and user-friendly. Want to buy one?

Let us change it by starting with WHY;

Everything we do, we believe in challenging the status quo. We believe in thinking differently. The way we challenge the status quo is by making our products beautifully designed, simple to use and user-friendly. And we happen to make great computers. Want to buy one? 

Comparing these two ways of the marketing message, which one is more convincing? For me, it is the second one because of the strong and robust WHY. The anchor was the belief  in challenging the status quo and thinking differently.” The message was clearly conveyed to the people. Individuals who have the same belief will buy their product because they feel connected to the product. Apple`s why is so strong it connects all the Apple users as well. People do not buy WHAT you do, they buy WHY you do it.

The Golden Circle is a great tool reinforce your passion and making it a reality. You will only have one WHY. Your how and what can be adjusted to meet the need of your WHY. I discovered my WHY when I reflected on my key life event.

I failed quite a number exams during my university years. However, I hustle, and I earned the job in Shell. I made a mistake in my start of my career. However, I managed to find ways to recover my way up. I lost my father due to cancer. He had been my coach, mentor and most importantly a father. I had to step up my journey to move into manhood without him.  When I connect the dots backward, I realized I survive the adversity. After every adversity, I learn and grow. I believe there is more to come!  I need to learn to embrace it.  That is where I learn my why.

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My beloved late Father and I

My WHY;

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My HOW:

I will put myself in difficult and challenging situations to grow individually and as a team. I would embrace failure and set back as I see it as the great opportunity. Failure is also a great teacher whereby required to be put under pressure to be a diamond.

 My WHAT

  • I must take challenging tasks in my career as an engineer in the oil and gas industry.
  • I must step out of comfort zone to achieve my fitness goal to be an Elite Spartan Racer.
  • I must read books with great materials to reinforce and train my mind to be positive to fight the negative energy that the environment give.
  • I must learn to convey the inspirational message and share my WHY through blogging and the social network.

Based on the why you are able to make a better decision and steer direction in your career. It acts as a filter to make the right decision as a leader and as a person. It serves as a compass to point the right direction! It will inspire you to drive your passion into fulfillment.

I encourage you to discover your WHY.  You can use the GOLDEN CIRCLE. You need to put yourself in different situations to discover your why. It requires clarity of WHY, the discipline of HOW and consistency of WHAT. All it takes is action!

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MY TOP 3 TOUGHEST OBSTACLES FROM SPARTAN RACE SPRINT MALAYSIA 2017


The HYPE at the start line of the Spartan Sprint!

The first Spartan Race in Malaysia for the year 2017. The Spartan Sprint! It was on the 12 March 2017. At first, I thought it was 5km run, but it was 8.9km! I said; Challenge accepted! I completed the race within 1hour 51minutes. I failed one obstacle out of 27 obstacles. It was was the Spear Throw! That was 30 burpees for me. My brother, Matthias and sister, Melissa also joined the Spartan Race Sprint 2017. It was Melissa`s first Spartan Race too. I was excited that she willing joined the Spartan Race! I am glad that I can inspire her to enter the Spartan Race. In this article, I would like to cover my top 3 toughest obstacles to beat!

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Myself, Melissa and Matthias

SPARTAN SPEAR THROW

Spartan Race Spear Throw

Spear throw seems to be a simple obstacle, and it is considered one of the Spartan Race`s signature obstacles. All you need to do is walk up to a starting point, grab the spear with your firm hand, aim, and throw. Remember you got only one chance to throw the spear at the target. The spear must stick into the targets. If you miss, it is a failed attempt. If it hits and bounces off, it is a fail attempt. You need to get down to do the burpee! It may sound easy, keep in mind the Spear Throw was known to be the Burpee Maker!! It does not require any significant strength, but it requires techniques. In my previous Spartan Beast and Spartan Super, I successfully stick the spear into the target! I was overconfident as I grab the spear and throw the spear to the target. I missed! I had to do 30 burpees. Remember you got only one chance to throw the spear at the target.

My Workout for the Spear Throw: I made my own spear and practice, practice and practice.

SPARTAN BUCKET BRIGADE

Bucket Brigade Spartan Race

Bucket Brigade is one hell of an obstacle. My body took quite a toll after completing the obstacles and it will test your mind and will to keep moving.  I need to fill the bucket with gravels from the “bin” to a point above the line of holes in the bucket. Then, I need to carry the bucket through a small hill, through the jungle, muddy path, and over big tree roots. I need to return the bucket filled with gravel. Finally, I emptied the bucket back into the bin. It was tough! I had to stop three times to catch my breath. I had to walk for a few minute before I catch up my running pace. The Bucket Brigade is a mandatory obstacle. If I failed to execute, it not burpee. But, I need to perform the obstacle once again. Thank God I managed to complete it.

My Workout for the Bucket Brigade: Deadlift! Get a bucket, fill it with weight and walk! 

SPARTAN MULTI RIG

Spartan Multi Rig

The Spartan Race organiser loves to put The Multi Rig at the end of the race. The Multi Rig is my number 3 of my top three toughest obstacles. The Multi Rig is similar to a monkey bar, but the only difference it has gymnastic rings, pipes, rope and the traditional cow bell at the end of the obstacles. The Multi Rig test the strength and endurance of the upper body strength and coordination. I failed The Multi Rig in my Spartan Super 2016 Malaysia and Spartan Beast 2016 Malaysia. However, I conquered this obstacle in The Spartan Race Sprint 2017 Malaysia. Yeah!! There is definitely, room for improvement in the future! Aro!!

My workout for the Multi Rig: Monkey bar, dead hang and pull ups!

To recap, my top 3 toughest obstacles would be the Spear Throw aka The Burpee Maker, the Bucket Brigade which will wear down your body significantly, and finally, the Multi Rig which will test your upper body strength and endurance.Brigade which will wear down your body significantly, and finally, the Multi Rig which will test your upper body strength and endurance.

If you`re a Spartan, please share your toughest obstacles in your Spartan Race Journey. Please also share your workout to overcome it by commenting below.

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Please check out THE 5 PHENOMENAL LESSONS FROM SPARTAN RACE!. To summarise, there are the focus on the finish line, be ready, choose your word wisely, take action, and most importantly helps others.

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My WHY is to inspire people to embrace the adversity of life.  A life without adversity is a life without growth. A life without growth is a life without meaning. A life without meaning is a life not worth living

The 5 Destructive effects of Fear.


Hello there! In my previous blog post, I wrote about problems, discouragement, and change. Now I am going to cover FEAR. My thanks to the book titled The Difference Maker by John C. Maxwell. Here are my take away from the book!

“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
Nelson Mandela

Let us first understand the effect of fear to our life. Every individual has that one fear that they do not want to others to know. It could be fear of public speaking, height, fear of making a decision and criticism. However, fear had its benefits. Fear helps to protect you from danger! When you walked in the dark, your senses heightened, your heart is pumping, and alertness boost up to detect any potential danger and risks!

If it is too much, it can be very destructive, and it can confine you from your greatest adventure. We learn to think every successful person somehow is exempt from fear, but nothing could be further from the truth. Fear is a natural part of the human condition. Guess what? Most fear is in your minds; it does not exist. There is a saying, FEAR is False Expectation Appearing Real.

Limits, like fear, is often an illusion.
Michael Jordan

Typically, as we grow up there is always worries on the responsibility we need to hold. Their worries will breed into fear. The common worries are finances, health, career challenges, family relationship, and accomplishing personal goals. These could be one of your fear as well. We need to overcome the fear! So, it is important to understand the consequences if we give in to fear.

1. Fear can breed more fear.
The most subtle thing about fear is its ability to exaggerate in our mind. We tendency to have an inappropriate sense of what is dangerous. Let me explain further, are you afraid of flying? Before you stepped on an aeroplane, you already think about an air crash. Do you know that more people died in a road accident compared to people were killed in air crashed? The odds of dying in a car accident to be 1 in 98 for a lifetime. For air and space transport (including air taxis and private flights), the odds were 1 in 7,178 for a lifetime. (Source: Is Air Travel Safer Than Car Travel?)

It is you that breed that fears. You project the coming catastrophe that will likely never happen. When the so-called disaster does not happen, you reckon, “Damn, that was close!”. Nevertheless, the fact is that your mind is the only thing creating the potential danger to you.

2. Fear cause inaction.
People who let some fear get hold of them find themselves progressively more fearful! Fear makes you afraid of doing something that might be good for you. You need to call for action to move into the unknown. That is scary. But, if you give in to your fear, you do not move ahead.

You will not receive any of the benefits. You will not gain the valuable experience that would prepare you better informed. As a consequence, you will remain ignorant about the area of life. Ignorance almost always breeds more fear! It will make it harder for you to go forward to learn and get things done!

Remember this, everything in life has some degree of risk. If you are too afraid of death, you will never live. If you are too afraid of struggle, you will never grow. If you are too afraid of failure, you probably never win.

3. Fear will weaken you.
The worst danger you may face is the risk of being paralysed by doubts and fear! It will cause a person to pass on the faith and dispel hope within them. It is brought on by those who spread cynicism and mistrust. They try to blind us to our great chance to do good for all humanity. It just can be either faith and fear.

Let’s look at FEAR!
Fear will weaken you.
Fear will imprison you.
Fear will paralyse you.
Fear will dishearten you.
Fear will sicken you.

Let’s look at FAITH!
Faith will strengthen you!
Faith will liberate you!
Faith will empower you!
Faith will encourage you!
Faith will heal you!

By reading the words above, you can feel the shift of energy after you read the part of FEAR then to the FAITH section! The worst part is when you use the energy to strike action! FEAR will cause you to react. FAITH will cause you to respond. A person cannot allow fear to master him and become the master of his strengths at the same time. You must master only one!

4. Fear Waste your energy.

Fear makes the wolf bigger than you are!

When you let fear take hold of you, you expend valuable energy in ways they should not. It will cause you to avoid the thing that does not harm you.
You have not taken action yet, but you already think about the fear of the solution to problems. In the end, the action is not taken. That fear may not be there.

Keep in mind; fear can push you in the wrong direction by producing tense energy that causes to do worst in every situation. It could even limit you to take action. Over a period. It will drain you and demotivate you.

5. Fear Limits your potential

One of the greatest mistakes in life is to be in constant fear of something that we make. Fear robs you of your potential. It makes us less than we are. People who rule by fear will play it safe. It is a pity because someone cannot reach their potential by remaining in the comfort zone. It is worse when they are keeping others from achieving their potential. When a leaders rules by fear, he become a lid to the people who follow him. Most people fail to realise their potential because their leaders are fearful! Leaders are the one who sets the culture, and they suppose to be fearless to face the threats from outside.I  had that fear when I wanted to start this blog too. I had that fear of not having time. Fear of being criticised for not being good enough. I had that fear terrible grammar. I was being scolded by English teacher before for simple grammar mistake. It will definitely limit my potential to write a blog. I have decided not to give in to fear! Hence, you are reading this blog, and I hope to add value to you!

Let’s us recap! If you give in to fear, it breeds more fear. Fear will cause you not to take action. Fear will weaken you to move forward. Fear waste your energy, and it fears limits your potential from greatness. Never give in to fear and overcome that fear you have all this while.

If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
Dale Carnegie

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The 5 phenomenal lessons from Spartan Race!


Are you ready?!

Who am I?!

I am a Spartan!

Aro!! Aro!! Aro!!

Spartan go for Glory!!

Source: Spartan Race Youtube Channel

That is the ambient at the starting line of a Spartan Race. The experience was amazing with a rush of energy and inspiration was build within me! I ran the race with all of my might until I completed the race. I finished the Spartan Sprint, Spartan Super and finally the Spartan Beast! The question you may be asking; “What are the difference between Spartan Sprint, Spartan Super, and Spartan Beast?”.

Well, the name is very self-explanatory. All it means the race after the next will get tougher and further.

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The Spartan Sprint!

Distance: 5km+

Number of Obstacles: 20+

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The Spartan Super!

Distance: 13km+

Number of Obstacles:  25+

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The Spartan Beast!

Distance: 20km+

Number of Obstacles:  30+

These are the three main Spartan races! Once you have completed all three races, you earned the Trifecta Medal! It is consists of pieces of Spartan Sprint, Spartan Super and Spartan Beast connected like a jigsaw puzzle. The satisfaction to complete the Spartan Trifecta is just indescribable.  I will be joining the race again this year to earn another Trifecta.

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My First Trifecta Medal

There are also Spartan Kids, Spartan Stadium, Spartan Ultra Beast, and Agoge.

Find out more from the Spartan Race Website.

Source: Spartan Race Youtube Channel

Spartan Race is more than getting the cool looking medal. For me, Spartan Race is more than just a race; it is a great reflection of life which filled with adversities and challenges. The feeling of overcoming the adversities is very fulfilling, beating the obstacles one at a time and crossing the finish line.

For each obstacle that I overcome, I thought of the life adversity that I faced daily. There were failure, fear, changes, disappointment, rejection, problem and losses. These are the things we cannot control. It is there now and will be there as long as you live. That is what life will offer, whether we like it or not. The question is “Do we choose to respond or react?”

You`re going to spend the rest of your life getting up more time, more time than you`re knocked down, so you`d better start getting used to it.

John Wayne from the movie; “The Train Robbers.”

I did a self-reflection throughout my runs in the Spartan Race. I am able to connect it to my life journey. The race taught me five phenomenal lessons to overcome the hardships of life! I am going to share it with you, and I hope you can learn from it as well!

Let’s go! Aro!!

  1. FOCUS ON THE FINISH LINE.

They were two types of people running the race.

They are people who focus on the obstacles.

They are people who focus on the finish line.

The people who focus on the obstacles have the tendency to be negative and to be discouraged. They complained by saying; “I cannot do this!” “I give up!” “This is enough!” “I`m done!” and “This is tough!”.  They see the obstacle as a burden which will drag them down to the ground.

The people who focus the finish line have the tendency to be positive and to be encouraged. They encourage themselves by saying; “Let’s go!”  “One obstacle at a time bro!” “You can do it!”  “Come, let me help you to climb!”.  They see the obstacle as an opportunity to grow, and they know the finish line is closer and closer.

Can you see the mindset between these two groups of people?  The one who focuses on the finish line will have the fulfilment of the race. What did I do? I begin with my WHY. My WHY is to inspire others to embrace the adversity of life. A life without adversity is a life without growth. A life without growth is a life without meaning. A life without meaning is a life not worth living.  The life event that reinforced my “why” was during I lost my father due to cancer. That was the toughest adversity I went through. I use this event to strengthen my “why” as an anchor for me to push myself until I finish the race.

At the starting line of the race, I pictured myself jumping over the fire which was the last obstacle. I am going to have the most epic pose ever for jumping over the fire. I am going to sprint to get the finisher medal. That was what I focus on in my mind until the finish line.

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The Fire Jump!!

The phenomenal lesson here is you must FOCUS ON THE GOAL! I had to work hard and smart, beating one obstacle at a time, getting down and dirty and finally cross the finish line to earn the finisher medal!  The question you may ask, how does is applicable in life? Every day you wake in the morning, I am very sure you have that particular goal in mind. There is a possibility that most of you are reluctant to go after it. One, because of the fear of failure. Two,  because of the fear of not be able to sustain it once you achieved it.  Trust me the sustaining part is the hardest.

DO YOU KNOW?

BY NOT DOING ANYTHING ABOUT IT, YOU ALREADY MAKE THE DECISION FAIL?

There will be obstacles that will challenge you and even break you from achieving the goal that you desire. No matter what obstacles you faced, never lose sight of the goal. The next question that you may ask, how do I do that? Write it down in detail in your journal. Describe the goal, so well until you can feel it in your heart. What is the result that you want?

Let’s say you want to lose weight. How much weight do you want to lose? You`re now weighing 100kg, and you lost 1kg which is also a weight loss. State the number you want to achieve. Let’s say you want to make money. How much? 10USD per day? It is still money. Let’s say you want to spend time with family. How much time? Do you look at your phone when you are with your family? What is the activity you want to do? When do you want to do it? It must be crystal clear! Remember this;

CLARITY IS POWER

The next thing is to start with WHY. The WHY will be an anchor for you to achieve that goal. It gives you the purpose of the goal! The WHY will fuel your drive to reach your goal!

For example, Anne`s goal is to live a healthy lifestyle by eating organic fresh food and to workout five times a week. She is willing to go through that routine every single day until her last breath. Her WHY was when her mother died due to a terminal disease which was caused by unhealthy eating and lifestyle. Her mother is missing all Anne`s significant life events like her wedding and her first-born daughter. The event became an anchor for her to be healthy. She must be there for her child`s wedding. She wants to be a grandmother and spend time with her grandchildren. The experience became an anchor and fuel for Anne to pursue her goal!

To live life, you have to be the person who focuses on the finish line. Do not be the person who focuses on the obstacles.

GOAL SETTING TIPS!

You have 24hours in a day. Use your 24hours to achieve a maximum of 3 life goals in one year. Be practical about it! Of course, depending on your capabilities. Ask yourself these five questions. These questions may guide you to determine the goal that you want.

  1. Is it truly my goal or it is another person’s opinion?
  2. Is it morally right and fair to everyone concerned?
  3. Will reaching this goal take me closer to or further from my major life objectives?
  4. Can I emotionally commit myself to start and finish this goal?
  5. Can I visualise myself reaching this goal?

If it is a YES for all five questions, let us look at two more questions;

  1. When I reach this goal, will it make me happier – healthier – more prosperous – win friends – give me peace of mind – make me more secure – improve my family relationships and give me hope?
  2. Most importantly, will reaching this goal contribute a more balanced success?

Source: Over the Top by Zig Ziglar

If all is yes! Go for it. Let us look at the next lesson which is about being READY!

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  1. BE READY

“If I had eight hours to chop down a tree, I`d spend six hours sharpening my ax.”

Abraham Lincoln

I had completed the Spartan Sprint and Spartan Super.  When I signed up for Spartan Beast Malaysia, I checked the description of the race. It stated 21km with 33 obstacles. It is a higher level of Spartan Race, compared to Spartan Sprint and Spartan Super. Spartan Beast is tougher and further! I had to prepare a different workout strategy for Spartan Beast! I need to build up my endurance and strength, especially the upper body. I seek help from a friend to help coach me. He gave me advice on what I should focus on during my workout. The workout focused on strength and endurance!

This lesson does not apply for Spartan Race only. BE READY is applicable for everyone who wants to do something in their life. Sports teams do it. Pilots do it. Musicians do it. Engineer do it. Doctors do it. Athletes do it.  They say you need a minimum of 10,000 hours to be skilled at what you do! It seems to be a long time. It may not show any progress. You need to accept the fact that preparation is one of the elements of Success.  I have to admit; it is not fun! Believe me, it will be worth it!

You can plan, prepare, expect, and make the commitment right where you are, doing exactly what you`re doing!

Zig Ziglar

The first step of preparation is to PLAN TO WIN!  I set up my mind that I will finish the Spartan Race! Same goes to you, in whatever goal that you want to achieve. Setup your mind that you will achieve victory! By taking action, it allows you to put yourself in a state of belief. A belief that you will break through and accomplish success. Hold the anchor that drive you to achieve those goals.

BE READY TIPS!

The next step is to SELF-ASSESS yourself. Where are you on the journey to reach your goal? Let go of your ego! Be honest with yourself!  Ask yourself the question “Am I progressing towards my goal?”. “What I need to change to progress forward?”, “What am I lacking?” and “Do I need an expert to help me?”. It is important to remind ourselves, why do I need to be there?

The third step is to COMMIT to the plan. Every single person on earth has 24 hours. What you do within your 24 hours will determine your whether you will achieve your goal!  Give it your all to commit and take action on them until you feel good about where you are. You need to work until you understand what you need to do to achieve it. Ask yourself the question “Do I know what it is I am trying to accomplish?”. If required, seek help from your friends, mentor, leaders and anybody whom you consider them an expert. Once you understand, you can continue to commit better with breadth and depth.

Plan to win! Self-Assess! Commit! That is the pathway to be prepared. John Wooden, basketball coach hall of fame. He said; “When Opportunity Comes, It is Too Late to Prepare”. Whatever your passion or goal is, keep working on it and show that commitment. One day, it will make a breakthrough and greatness will come! Let us look at the next lesson which is about the WORDS!

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  1. CHOOSE YOUR WORD WISELY!

The words are the most powerful tools that created by man!

The race tested both the physical endurance and the mental endurance. Physical endurance is a state of health, well-being, fitness and, more specifically, the ability to perform for a long duration. The challenging part would be the mental endurance! It is a measure of individual resilience in performing the particular sport with a given extended period of time. One of the ways to strengthen my mental endurance until I cross the finish line is to speak empowering words.

By doing so, I am locked-in and focus on how am I going to beat these obstacles and complete the race. I kept repeating these sentences, “I must not stop!”, “I must finish the race!”, “I must beat this obstacle!”, “I must keep going!” and “I can, I will, I must.” I always believe what we say has a direct bearing on your performance. The moment I crossed the finish line, I said: “I did it!”. Repeating these words reinforce my belief that I CAN DO IT!

Your word will be made flesh. This is applicable in life, especially when you are dealing adversity. If you talk negatively, it will hurt you, it will discourage you, and it will weaken you. If you talk positively, it will heal you, it will encourage you, and it will strengthen you. My favourite tagline is “Man respond, boys react”. This allows me to step back, assess the situation and take the right action!

You may ask is that even enough? Saying an empowering word will get things done better? Well, of course not! It takes action too! I can say; “I can, I will and I must” and just looking at the obstacle. The obstacle will still be there until you take ACTION to overcome it.  However, compared to being negative, you will only hurt yourself. It does not do you any good, and being positive is always a choice. It works like a SPARK before starting a fire!

A positive mental attitude will not let you do everything. However, it can help you do anything better than you would if your attitude were negative!

John C. Maxwell

The next question you may ask; “What do I need to do learn these words?” You need to understand empowering words need to be fed into your mind first. It has to be every hourly and daily! This is to build an anchor of your empowering words and give meaning to you. There are two ways to do it.

TO GET THE EMPOWERING WORD TIPS!

You need to feed your mind with empowerment thought! You need to read great books that will add value to your life. Reading helps you to focus and learn experience from others. You should read books on inspiration, self-help, biography, novels or anything that can spark your interest and curiosity.  I would recommend you to read Over The Top by Zig Ziglar, One question by Ken Coleman and Second Chance by Robert Kiyosaki. These books are filled with knowledge and wisdom which you can use in your everyday life. If you are the type, who watch the video. Check out YOUTUBE! There are loads of talks and information there as well. Check out TED talk, etthehiphoppreacher, Les Brown, and of course Spartan Race. Besides that, you can listen to podcasts through your phone in your car. That is what I usually do. You should listen to The Secret to Success with CJ & Eric Thomas, The GaryVee Audio Experience, and The Ziglar Show. These podcasts will help and program your mind to be empowered and inspired.

What you feed your mind determines your appetite.

Tom Ziglar

You need to share the empowerment to others! Keeping your knowledge and wisdom it not sufficient. Moving to the next level, you need to share it with others. Joseph Joubert, a French moralist, and essayist said: “To teach is to learn twice”. When you share what you learn, it will reinforce the understanding. By doing so, it forces you to be accountable and not being a hypocrite.  I always believe, the greats inspire themselves, legends inspire others. Believe me; these people will remember you for a lifetime as you change their life. Who knows in that conversation, it challenges your belief and your understanding which create a quality discussion.

Choose your word well as it is the bearing of your performance. Feed your mind with empowerment thought. It will change your belief and start up your SPARK to initiate the FIRE!Let us look at the next lesson which is about ACTION!

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  1. TAKE ACTION!

We talked about FOCUS ON THE GOAL, BE READY and CHOOSE YOUR WORD WISELY. The next phenomenal lesson is to TAKE ACTION!  Once you are in the race, you had one job which is to cross the finish line! For you to do that action is needed. You need to run, jump, climb, carry, crawl, hold, swing, throw and get down and dirty. If you failed an obstacle, you need to do 30 burpees. Guess what? You are accountable for all of these actions for you to reach the finish line.

Now how does that apply to life? In lesson one, we talked about the focus on the goal. To make your goal a reality, you must take accountability and full ownership! No one else will do it for you but you. You need to realise the goal is only a dream if it is not a reality. Hence, the action is required. Standing still in the middle of the race will not make you cross the finish line. You run the race, not the race runs you.  It is you have to grind and hustle to run towards the finish line!

Anthony Robbin, one of the successful life coach. He develops a tool known as RPM of goal setting. R is for Results. P is for Purpose. M is for Massive Action. Just to recap, results are the goal you want to achieve. You must describe your goal with clarity. Your goal must have a purpose. It is the anchor to achieve your goal. Finally, taking the Massive Action is the key to make your goal into a reality. The tool that you can use is P.D.C.A. Which means, Plan-Do-Check-Adjust. It is a cycle of continuous improvement to complete a particular task.

TAKE ACTION TIPS!

You need to PLAN your big goal backwards by breaking it down into smaller goals. Map out the goal that you want to achieve up to where you are today! Your big goal could be a one year to five years’ time. Then, break it down to yearly, quarterly, monthly, weekly and daily. Write down a simplified to do list daily, which can be done within your 24 hours in a day. DO and commit to execute the task and make sure it connects to your big goal! Every night before you go to bed, spend 15minutes to CHECK where you are on the list. Ask yourself, “What did I do well?”, “What I did not do well?”, “What can I learn from the things that I did not do well?” and “How can I change that?”. Be honest with yourself when you are answering these questions. You are accountable for it. You have to be flexible to ADJUST your daily tasks to achieve your goal. Then, you need to PLAN for the next day. The cycle continues with persistence until you reach your goal.  In a month, perform a major CHECK and ADJUSTMENT on where you are in your journey to achieve your goal. Let us look at the next lesson which is about HELP!

Average people have great ideas, legends have great execution.

Dr Eric Thomas

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  1. HELP OTHERS

I joined the competitive category of the Spartan Beast. In a way, it is still a competition, and I am trying to get the best time to gauge my performance. However, I encountered some participants having trouble overcoming some of the obstacles. I decided to help them to overcome the obstacles, despite the fact that I wanted to get the best time. I discovered the pleasure of helping other Spartan to complete the obstacles. Here are Spartans that I help throughout the race.

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The Atlas Carry

He was struggling to carry the Atlas ball!

As I was running, I saw the next obstacle to overcome the Atlas Carry. I love to deadlift, so this obstacle quite easy for me. I lifted the 60kg cement ball up and walked to the other side and did five burpees and carry it back. Then, I saw a middle-aged look man who was struggling to lift the Altas ball weighing 60kg after his five burpees. I believe he exhausted all his energy. I went over and helped him to carry until at the end of the obstacles. I was telling him, “All good bro?” He said: “Yea, thanks, man!”. He sat on the ground and taking his breath. I carried on to the next obstacle.

She can`t pull herself up!

I continued my run; then I saw another obstacle which was the Inverted Wall.  A young girl was struggling to climb over the Inverted Wall.  She was unable to pull herself up. I said; “Hello, come and step on my shoulder!”. She managed to pull herself up. She shouted; “Thank you!” once she was on the other side of the wall. She went her way.

No man left behind!

I believe it was about last 8 kilometres of the race. I saw a guy in front of me was shouting in pain. He seems to experience pain on this right ankle as he was holding his right ankle. Another Spartan and I came and helped to carry him with the human crutch posture to the nearby water station. He received the required medical aid. He said: “Thank you and sorry to slow you down”. I just replied, “Don`t worry about it, get yourself fixed. Cool?”.  I said thanks to the others Spartan who help me to carry him too. Both of us continue with the race.

She was slipping from the wall!

After the Hercules Hoist obstacle, it was the Slip Wall. I manage to climb to the top. A lady in red beside me was slipping and struggling to pull herself up. Furthermore, it was raining. So, I offered my hand to her. I managed to pull her up until she is capable of handling on her own. The Slip Wall was approximately 200meter before the finish line. Imagined the 20.8km run, this was one last few obstacles.  I have to say it was exhausting. Once, I managed to pull her up. She said; “Thank you!’.

Helping her to overcome the Slip Wall

They are strangers. However, we have ONE common goal which is to finish the race. It gave meaning to complete the race knowing that I helped other Spartans to finish the race. The final phenomenal lesson here is to remember to HELP OTHERS. Do you know by helping others, you are helping yourselves?  Helping others will make you happy. It will boost your self-confidence. It will give you a sense of purpose and give you the feeling of belonging to a community. You will feel fulfilled by helping others to achieve their goal.

One of the best leadership books that I read, Leaders Eat Last written by Simon Sinek. When we serve others, there are hormones which are known as The Selfless Chemicals. There known to as the Serotonin and Oxytocin. Theses hormone helps to form bonds of trust and friendship so that we look out for each other. It acts as a grease of the social machine. Let us break it down! Theses hormone helps to form bonds of trust and friendship so that we look out for each other. It acts as a grease of the social machine. Let us break it down!

Serotonin is the feeling of pride. It is the feeling you get when you perceive that others like to respect you. It makes you feel strong and confident like you can do anything in the world. It makes you feel rise above all. You know that feeling when you help someone struggling to solve their problem. They said; “Thank you” to you. You feel good, right? That is a surge of Serotonin injected into your veins. It reinforces the bond between you and the person that you helped. That was the same feeling that I received when I helped them to overcome the obstacles.

Oxytocin was known to be chemical of love. It sparks the feeling of friendship, love, deep trust and loyalty. It will inspire us to do nice things for others. It is the feeling we get when we are in the company of our closest friends or trusted colleagues. It is the feeling we get when we do something nice for someone, or someone does something nice for us. Oxytocin is injected into your body when you do good deeds to others. The other person also receives oxytocin as they receive the good deed. Hence, trust and relationship are formed.

The more we give of ourselves to see others succeed, the greater out value to the team and more respect the offer us. The more respect and recognition we receive, the higher our status in the team and the more incentive we have to continue to give to the team.

“You can have everything in life you want if you will just help other people get what they want.”

Zig Ziglar.

The key message here is developing a relationship with others. I always believe together is better! Together Everyone Achieve More! A TEAM! The first step to develop a relationship is to offer help and add value to others. You need to be genuine about it. I was listening to a podcast titled; “A Keynote: Haste and Hustle Ontario 2017” from Gary Vee Audio Experience. “Gary Vee said; “When you give with expectation in return, you lost!”. It means you need to give values first; then it will come back to you. You never know the person that you helped will give back to you ten times fold.

HELPING OTHERS TIPS!

Let’s get started, how can we help others? There are many ways we can help others.  You can start with a smile and be friendly, volunteer for a charity, make a donation, teach, give free coaching session, help them to take action, buy lunch for them, and show appreciation. These little things can go a long way.

Any talents or skill you have, please do share it with others. You can help them to reach their goal. Let’s say you are an expert in fitness, you can lift heavy, and you look great with six packs abs and all. Another person who is overweight seeks your help to lose weight, and he or she wants to learn to eat healthily. You can spend some time to help them to be a better version of themselves. You can look at it as an investment. You can learn and understand why people did not take care of their health. Then, it becomes a two-way relationship together they are embarking on a journey of healthy living.

With all the energy, you have to make an effort to HELP OTHERS. You will feel fulfil as it gave you purpose in life.

Success without fulfilment is the ultimate failure.

Anthony Robbin

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These are all the five phenomenal lessons from Spartan Race. Let’s recapped!

FOCUS ON THE FINISH LINE.

BE READY

CHOOSE YOUR WORD WISELY!

TAKE ACTION!

HELP OTHERS

Through Spartan Race, I discovered my WHY. My message to all the reader is to find ways to be uncomfortable. That is where growth happens. It does not have to be Spartan Race. It can be a marathon, sprinting, weight lifting, cycling, strongman and climbing a mountain. Find what works for you that will test your body and mind to handle life`s adversity!

My “why” is to inspire others to embrace the adversity of life. A life without adversity is a life without growth. A life without growth is a life without meaning. A life without meaning is a life not worth living.

Whatever obstacles come your way; failure, rejection, disappointment, losses, fear, problem, discouragement, and changes, always FOCUS on the finish line. BE READY for any opportunity and obstacle! You need to choose the RIGHT WORD to encourage yourselves and TAKE ACTION! Most importantly, HELP OTHERS to overcome their obstacles!

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Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable.

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Left side, the year 2015, before I know Spartan Race. Right side, the year 2016, after I know Spartan Race

To know more!!

  1. The Reebok Spartan Race Website.
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  3. Over the Top by Zig Ziglar
  4. Leaders Eat Last by Simon Sinek
  5. The Difference Maker by John C. Maxwell.

 

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10 POWER UP TAGLINES to face life adversity!


Running the Spartan Race helps me to embrace the adversity of life. A life without adversity is a life without growth. A life without growth is a life without meaning. A life without meaning is a life not worth living.

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Words are the most powerful tools made by man. The word can be used to change the mindset of a person significantly. I believe self-talk has a direct bearing on our performance. Spartan Race involved running, jumping, climbing, lifting and memorising codes. The toughest race I ever joined was the Spartan Beast. It was  21km run with 33 obstacles.

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Completing the Spartan Beast

It was the longest run I ever ran, and it includes obstacles. Unfortunately, I failed 2 out of 33 obstacles. There were the rope climb and the multi-rig. These obstacles hit the upper body very hard. To make matter worse, the obstacles was the last few kilometres of the race, and I was very exhausted. I had to do 30 burpees for each failed obstacle. I was struggling running after the burpees, and I had to walk. I tried to pick up my pace, and it was tough!

It was a shocked to my body. I experienced cramp on my right calf, joint pain on my right knee and bruises on my arms and elbow. It was painful. It was a battle between me and the race. So, how do I endure it?  Self-talk! I kept talking to myself positively and feeding my mind the “CAN DO” attitude.

“Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.”
Rudyard Kipling

I repeat these sentences throughout the race;

I must not stop!

I must finish this race!

I must beat this obstacle!

I must reach the finish line!

The moment I crossed the finish line, I said: “I did it!”. The lesson here was to watch your word. Your word will be made flesh. If you talk negatively, it will hurt you and discourage you. If you speak positively, it will heal you and encourage you. Repeating positive words reinforced my mind to push my body to perform beyond my expectation and finally finished the race.

“Repetition is the mother of learning, the father of action, which makes it the architect of accomplishment.”

Zig Ziglar

My favourite positive tagline that helps me to face life adversity is “Men Respond, Boys React. Why must I respond to this instead of reacting?” The toughest adversity I had to face was when my father lost his fight to cancer and was called by God. He was an inspirational mentor, a bold leader, a loyal husband to my mother and loving father to his 6 children. I have to say it was tough. I asked myself, how must I respond to this adversity?  I answered, “Learn to live with it and move on. I am very sure my daddy will NOT be happy if I continue to cry about it until today.”  I had to turn the words into action and march forward to embrace adversity. Of course, it is easier said than being done. I need to put it into action, then my feeling will follow. Until today, I am still adapting his absence. However, it will take time for my family and I to heal.

“Keep your face to the sunshine, and you cannot see a shadow.”

Helen Keller

React is to take action without thinking. In another word, it leads to an unconscious decision.  It is an emotional reaction. It is usually based on anger, frustration, victim-minded and it is NOT the most rational way to take action. To respond is taking the situation in, pause and decide the best option to take action. It is a conscious decision. This is based on key values such as honesty, integrity, respect, with victor-minded and it is a rational action to take.

Let just say, you lost your mobile phone! Every information, pictures, contacts and video are all gone!  There are 2 ways here, whether to react or respond?

To React: You immediately react by getting angry with frustration. You may curse yourself for being stupid, careless and dropping all the bad words. Then, you begin to release that negative energy to the people close to you. They could be your friends, siblings, husband or wife. This could affect your relationship with them, and it is counter-productive. This will NOT make anything better.

To Respond: You begin to notice the anger building up in you. Take a deep breath, pause and assess the whole situation. Ask yourself the right question, what can I do to get my phone back? It is an iPhone, it has an ICloud: letsUse Lost Mode function. Let me contact the Apple support team through my laptop or using my friends` mobile phone. Taking it one step at a time and asking the right question to solve the problem. If you cannot get your phone back despite all the efforts look at the bright side, you have the opportunity to get a new phone! The next question to ask “What I need to do to avoid this from happening again?”.

Based on the stated example, to respond and to react may look similar but that are not identical. The state of mind are not identical, and the outcome is different.

My advice to the readers is keeping an eye of your words. Say the positive words to encourage you. Believe me, it will empower you to perform at your very best. My favourite positive tagline is “Men Respond, Boys React. Why must I respond to this instead of reacting? So, what are your tagline? Write it down and keep reminding yourself that keywords so that the adversity can be handled properly. Here are my other positive taglines when I faced life adversity.

  1. When comes to discouragement: I Can, I Will and I Must
  2. When comes to failure: It is either you succeed, or you learn. Always remember, today`s failure will no guarantee future failure. Learn, and you will succeed. 
  3. When comes to change:  Let’s see what is within my control and what is not within my control? What can I do to manage this change?
  4. When comes to the problem: Problem is an alarm clock of creativity. What can I do to solve it? 
  5. When comes to fearFear makes us afraid to do something that might be beneficial for us. It will limit our potential!
  6. When comes to negative critics: A lion does not turn around when the small dog is barking. I will not let them impact me.
  7. When comes to laziness: You`re going to regret this. The others are grinding, what are you doing?
  8. When comes to success: It is great to celebrate success. Remember today`s success will not guarantee future success. Keep grinding.
  9. When comes to coaching: The great inspire themselves, legends inspire others. 
  10. When comes to opportunity: When the opportunity comes, it`s too late to prepare. Treat every opportunity as the last! 

Begin with a positive tagline. Usually, I repeat these lines for at least 3 times to embed it in my mind. Most importantly, put your words into action! Actions always speak louder than words. For each life event, act and work on it daily! Feeding your mind with positive thought will turn it into positive action. Your positive action will feed your positive habit. Your positive habit will determine a brighter future for you.

You can determine your own positive tagline to keep your focus on the positive side of life. So, what is your tagline? Please share by commenting your tagline below!  

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The 5 Principles to Handle Problem!


The problem occurs when things do not go the way you want it to be. Everyone will experience the problem.  It can happen anywhere, anytime and most of the time it will happen the least you expect it to happen! There are just inescapable!

People`s perspective makes a huge difference in how a person approach their problem. If we look at negative perspective. Problems are unsolvable, problems are permanent, problems there control us and problems stop us. If we look at the positive perspective, problems are solvable, problems are temporary, problems challenge us and problems stretch us.

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How we look at the problem at the first place makes the difference whether we can solve it or not. It is best to look at the positive side by facing the problem, assessing the problem and taking action to address it. I am going to share the key principles to handle problems which I read about from The Difference Maker by John C. Maxwell.

  1. Identify the problem!

The first thing we need to do is to determine if it is really a problem. There is a difference between a problem or a predicament. A problem is something you can resolve because there is a solution. If there is no solution, it is not a problem. It is known as a predicament. The predicament is a difficult situation that a person needs to endure. The issue here is when people treat their predicament as a problem. They become frustrated, angry and even depressed. They make the wrong decision, waste their energy and fail. In the end, they begin to nurture the victim mindset in them. So, how do we differentiate these two?

This is based on my own experience. My father was called by God on the 28 May 2015 due to cancer. This is something I cannot solve. However, I have to learn to live with it and move on with life because crying about it will do more damage. That is a predicament. There is no way a person can resurrect a person from the dead unless he is God. It is a difficult journey, but I have to move on.

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My late father and I

Another example, last year, 2016 the oil price had drop from approximately 90USD/barrel to 40USD/barrel. You are working in an oil and gas company. The company have to make a tough decision to reduce cost significantly to earn hard cash. The company announced a reorganization process whereby there will be massive lay off. Unfortunately, you got the hit. That is already a predicament. Are you going to drain your energy to complain about it? It is alright to vent out for a short period of time. But, are you doing to stay down? Instead, you have to learn to accept it and spend your energy to hunt for a new job or even starting a business. People with a victor-mindset will use it as an opportunity to transition to something better.

How do we define the problem? John C. Maxwell structured P.R.O.B.L.E.M.S as follows:

Predictors – helping to mould our future.

Reminders – showing us that we cannot succeed alone.

Opportunities – pulling us out of ruts and prompting us to think creatively.

Blessing – opening doors we would otherwise not go through.

Lessons – providing instruction with each new challenge.

Everywhere – telling us that no one is excluded from difficulties.

Messages – warning us about potential disasters.

Solvable –  reminding us that every problem has a solution.

I would suggest you write this down and stick it up somewhere that can be easily accessed. If you encounter a problem, look through this list. I believe it will help to motivate you to respond to the problem.

If you are able to distinguish between predicaments from problems, then you are able to put yourself in a better position to endure the predicaments and determine the solution for the problem.

  1. Be ever ready to face the problem.

Al Davis, owner of NFL`s Oakland Raiders

A great leader doesn`t treat problems as special. He treats them as normal.

The moment you drive your car for a long ride, expect problems like a flat tire. When you have your wedding reception, expect problems like the microphone will be faulty or even out of battery. If you are working at the office, expect a problem like being shouted by another colleague for no reason. We need to be ever ready when comes to deal with a problem.

A problem not anticipated is a problem. A problem anticipated is an opportunity.

Facing the problem can be a struggle, believe me. Based on John C. Maxwell experience, they are 4 groups of people when dealing with life adversity.

#1: Flee it – they try to run away, but the problems always follow.

#2: Forget it –they hope the problem will go away, but problem left alone only get worse.

#3: Fight it –they resist, but the problem still persists.

#4: Face it– they look at the problem realistically and finds ways to solve it.

It is good to do self-assessment to determine which group you are usually in. If you are in the #1, #2, and #3, you need to change your mindset. Divert your mentality into the fourth group, FACE IT! The right question to ask, “How can I solve this problem effectively?”. Use positive word to divert your mindset from a victim minded to a victor minded. Remember, the first step to solving the problem is to have the courage to face it and understand the problem.

  1. Every problem is a potential opportunity

Negative minded people will see an obstacle as a burden. Positive minded people will see the obstacle as an opportunity. President John F. Kennedy was asked how he becomes a war hero.  He answered: “It was quite easy. Someone sunk my boat!”. Most of the time, adversity paves the way for success. All the invention around us begins with a problem. It is the affirmative action that a person to resolve the problem that makes the difference.

The Wright brothers, Orville and Wilbur. Both of them opened a bicycle shop and they focus on repairing and selling bicycles. They were also had a passion for flight. However, that time there were no airplane like what we had now. They identified the problem and took matters into action. From a bicycle mechanic to an aircraft mechanic. It was a contrast transition. However, with their positive attitude they continue to pursue their passion. They learned, experiment, made mistakes and modified their prototype until they succeed. On the 17 December 1903. (Source: Eye Witness to History)  Orville Wright took the first flight 20 feet above a wind-swept beach in North Carolina. The flight lasted for 12 seconds. He traveled for 120 feet. Although they succeed that time, they continued to try again to improve. There were three more flights made that day. The best recorded flight was 59 seconds over a distance of 852 feet. That was the mark of flight revolution. The Wright brothers were the game changer of flight by unlocking their abilities from building a bicycle to building an airplane.

Wilbur Wright

“It is possible to fly without motors, but not without knowledge and skill.”

Problems are alarm-clock for creativity and innovation. If we choose to wake up and get up, problems will notify us to use our unlocked abilities. You will be surprised with what you can do with that mindset.

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  1. List of all the of the potential solution to the problem

We have to program our mind stating that to every problem, there is already a solution whether you know what it is or not. Fire up the creative and innovative mind to attack the problem. Pull in the available resources. There could be information from the internet or people who are expert with experience that can help you. Use the network you have to tackle the problem.  Good thinkers always have more than one way to solve a problem. We tend to make a mistake when there is only one solution to any problem. Keep on thinking and grinding through to determine the solution.

 No problem can stand the attack of sustain of the solution.

The question is the key to unlocking the world greatest mystery. The right question will give you the right answer. Use the famous fundamental question specifically why, how, what, who, when and where. It will direct the problem to the right solution.

  1. Take action and refocus on the right solution.

Having a list of a solution of a problem is meaningless if action is not taken. We all have that fear of not taking action because we do not know will it work. Once there are options, the next step is to determine the best solution. Then, make the plan to a reality by take the action and concentrate on it. Let us look at it this way, Alex is not taking a decision on the list of solution due to fear of making wrong decision and Zoe is taking the action on the list of possible solution. Zoe does not know the solution will it solve the problem, but she just executes it. Between Alex and Zoe, which person has a higher probability to succeed? Definitely, Zoe! Alex already failed as he did not take action because he is waiting and waiting and the problem still persist.

Thomas Edison

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

 Concentration is the secret of strength in politics, in war, in trade, in short, in all human management affair.

In your problem-solving journey, you may make a mistake, do not chase after it. Do not try to defend it, instead learn from it. Take a step back and refocus on the solution of the problem. Move to the next solution which potentially may solve the problem. That is the beauty once you have the list of a solution of a problem. Always keep an eye on the goal that you want to achieve and visualised it. Let us say, Zoe made the wrong choice. She found out that 1 out of 10 solutions does not work and this allows her to eliminate the failed option. She can move on the next potential solution. Learn, refocus on the situation and keep attacking the problem until the goal is achieved.

John Foster Dulles

The measure of success is not whether you have a tough problem to deal with, but whether it is the same problem you had last year.

The key is to focus on what you are learning, not on what you are losing. If you do that, then you will open the door to future possibilities. A positive attitude can help you to do that. It helps you to learn from the present and focus on the future. Positive thinking is how you think about a problem. Enthusiasm is how you feel about the problem. Put these two together, it will determine what you do about the problem.

To summarise the principles, we need to identify the problem first. We need to be ever ready to face the problem. Keep in mind, every problem is a potential opportunity. Write down a list of all the of the possible solution to the problem. Most importantly, take action and refocus on the right solution. All the best and go solve that problem!

The content was taken from the Difference Makerwritten by John C. Maxwell and with a spice of my thought. Definitely, a book to read and highly recommended for those who want to learn to manage their attitude.

5 Principles to Manage CHANGES in Life!


In my previous post, I wrote about DISCOURAGEMENT as one of the obstacles of the positive attitude. Now, I am going to cover CHANGE. The truth is we cannot move forward and remain the same. But why do we resist change? Let us discover why we resist change.

We resist change because of our personal loss. For everything, we gain we will lose something, and there is that fear that we need the things that we let go again. We fear the unknown. We often cling to the things we know, even though we are not satisfied with it.  Changes feel awkward as it feels different. This takes us out of the comfort zone. Another reason is the tradition. People may assume that if it is a tradition, it is the best way to do it. Hence, this restricts us to try out new ways. Tradition can be a good thing if it connects you with other people and personal history. If it not, that can be changed. That conversion will pop up in your head, “We have been doing that way all this while, and it works. Why do we need to change it?”

Change is going to happen anyway. We cannot control it. However, we can make a choice to respond to it!  We cannot become what we need by remaining what we are. If you desire growth, then you must embrace change. To deal change successfully, it is all about preparation and being positive to respond to it. Here are the 5 principles to manage the change.

  1. Change will happen whether you like it or not.

Whatever happen today, will change tomorrow. Change is unavoidable. It is a different world than it was twenty years ago, and it will be different in another twenty years. A great example is the usage of technology. 10 years ago, only people with luxury can afford a mobile phone, and it was not a necessity. Now time has changed, the mobile phone is a necessity to get connected locally and globally. The pay phone now it obsolete, we do not use that anymore. Then, we had keypad phone before we move to touch screen phone. We hardly find shops that sell keypad mobile phone although we want to buy one. Again, we cannot stop the change, it will come. Learn to accept it.

2. Without change, there can be no improvement.

Honestly, change can represent both possible opportunities and potential losses. If we decide to stay still, the growth is zero. Hence, we need to take action to embrace the change. We cannot become what we need by remaining what we are. It is all about perspective. If it is a great opportunity, we won. If it is a loss, you learn. With that experience, we know what works and what does not work. That lead to growth on the way we make a decision in the future. Learn to embrace it.

3. Make a commitment to pay the price for change.

Change always costs us something. It may not be in term of money, it may take time, energy and creativity. In fact, if change does not cost us anything, then it is not a real difference. The best way is to measure the cost of change compared to the expense of the status quo.

Let say you just change job from company A to company B. When you were working company A, you worked exactly 8 hours per day because you have that stability. You know the people, the work processes and the system. Now you are working for company B. You may need to invest extra hours in learning, potential additional late nights and sacrificing energy until you reach that stability similar when you were working for company A. That is the price all of us have to pay when we need to change.  Make a decision to look at the bright side that will make a difference between

Change = growth or change = grief

4. Change must happen within you before it can happen around you.

Time changes things, but we actually have to change them ourselves. Here is the fact, any change that occurs in the world always begins with change within an individual. Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. Once we dedicate ourselves to growth and develop a lifestyle of planned improvement from inside out, it will become routine to you. With that mindset in place, we can welcome any significant shift in life.

5. Make a decision on what you are NOT willing to change.

There are always things that we are not prepared to change. For me, no matter what, I will not change my faith in God as a Christian. I would rather die than forfeit my faith in God. I will not change my value that I hold dearly, which is accountability, integrity and valor. I will not change my life guiding principles such as to have faith and be honest. These are the things are not worth compromising. We need to identify this first. List down the things that you will not change. Then everything else should be open to change.

Do not be afraid to keep trying something new. All the things you love were once unknown to you.

The content was taken from the Difference Makerwritten by John C. Maxwell and with a spice of my thought. Definitely, a book to read and highly recommended for those who want to learn to manage their attitude.

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5 Ways to overcome Discouragement!!


Sustaining a positive attitude while living life is very similar to running the SPARTAN RACE. There are obstacles you need to overcome in the race. These can be the negative events that can challenge your attitude.  There are 5 obstacles that we need to face in our lifetime. There are discouragement, change, problem, fear and failure. For now, I am going to cover discouragement.

If you let discouragement get inside you, it can conquer you from the inside out, and it will prevent you from achieving the success you desire.

Every individual gets discouraged from time to time. I am very sure we all have that one day, things do not go your way. They are also people around you that drain you with negative thoughts. They are toxic people that we need to stay away. As we get older, there are things get harder, and there are things get easier. That is what make life interesting!  This is known as growth!

Basically, there are two types of people when it comes to deal with discouragement. There are splatters and bouncers.  A splatter will hit the ground hard, they fall apart, and they stick at the bottom. A bouncer will hit the ground hard too. The difference is they pull together and bounce back. So, which one are you?  Here are the steps to be a bouncer.

  1. Get the right perspective

Take a good look at the whole picture. No matter how difficult things may be, there is always a reason to hope. Take a short look at the problem. Once we assess the problem, we need to focus on the solution. Assess yourself. Are you responding or reacting? Learn from successful people. Most of the successful people have one common trait. It is persistence! Check out people like Michael Jordan, Jack Ma and Dwayne Johnson known as The Rock. These people have been through the tough journey and achieve greatness.

2. See the right people

They are toxic people who drain you. They are tonic people who inspire you. Meet the right people, they will lift you up. Stay away from toxic people, they will not help to lift you up. Most of the time they will complain and find ways to discourage you. Tonic people are the one can give you hope. They can be your accountability partner of your performance. They keep track on what matters in life. There is a saying, “Show me your 5 closest friends and I will show you your future.

3. Use positive word

Another source of discouragement is self-talk. The Bible stated, “The word was made flesh…” Use positive word to convince yourself that this discouragement can be overcome. Dr. Eric Thomas favourite line; I CAN. I WILL. I MUST! Instead of saying, I hate my life! Say, this is interesting. How can I change that? You are what you say.

4. Have the right expectation.

Expectation needs to be realistic. In other words, remain flexible, and you cannot expect everything to go perfectly.  Unrealistic expectation will feed your discouragement. Keep it flexible! Positive perfectionists, set realistic goals and forgive themselves when they fall shorts.

5. Make the right decision.

This is the toughest part. The decision made will have a huge impact on our outlook. It is always important to make the right decision. A wrong decision will lead to more discouragement on us. This comes with experience. Over a period of time, we will learn and grow. The action is always the key!

When you face discouragement, you can do two things, and the one you choose will colour your perspective. You can look at others to place the blame, or you can look at yourself to discover your opportunities. The choice is yours!

The content was taken from the Difference Maker, written by John C. Maxwell and with a spice of my thought. Definitely, a book to read and highly recommended for those who want to learn to manage their attitude.

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