#5 Minutes Truth: Pride and Fear are the greatest motivation of life!

Your why is the spark! It is your purpose. However, it means nothing without fuel. That is when MOTIVATION comes in. It is a form of fuel to light the fire. It is the desire or willingness to do something until you achieve the goal you want. Motivation fuels the engine of success. It maximises and maintains momentum until you achieve your life goal.

The key word here is “fuel”. Life has a very funny ways to suppress your fuel. John C. Maxwell frames it up very well. They are known as discouragement, failure, changes, fear and problem. Guess what, these give life a meaning to fight for. Learn to embrace it. It is not what happens to you, but how you handle what happens, that makes the difference.  Here are my top three quotes on motivation! 


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When you want to succeed as much as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful! 
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When something is important enough, you do it even if the odds are not in your favor!


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Pride and Fear are the greatest motivation of life! 


My personal favourite, Pride and Fear are the greatest motivation of life. To explain this further, it is the pride of being successful, and it is the fear of failure. It does not mean you should not fail. I believe failure is a given. It is the pride of learning from your failure and achieve success from it. In other words, a comeback from failure. Due to fear, you take pride in your success! 

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Fuel your fire with motivation to live life with fulfilment!






They are two type of people in the world; the “CAN” and “CAN`T.” The first type of people can achieve anything. They have the positive mindset and the CAN-do attitude. The second type of people will fail everything. They did not even start, they just say it cannot be done. They see failure in every result. If you are able to handle failure well, you can keep yourself away from the CANNOT-do attitude.

Henry Ford;

If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.

The question is, WHY do people have the CANNOT-do attitude? John C. Maxwell breaks it down to four main reasons;

1. They expect to fail!

Usually, the people who keep failing are the ones who expect to fail. Even before they begin a task, they already see the failure instead of success first. They are like the pessimist whose with a name tag on, “I expected this to fail”. Their mindset was programmed to fail.

The Law of Human Behaviour

Sooner or later We will get what we expect!


2. They take failure personally!

You cannot perform in a manner inconsistent with the way you see yourself. Everybody fails! But if they still continue to fail, they will expect to fail. In the end, they will label themselves as a failure. You need to understand there is a big difference between failing and being a failure.

If you want to maintain a good attitude and be successful, you cannot take your failure or even your success personally.  Failure is not so bad if it does not attack the heart. Success is all right if it does not go to the head. A failure is just an event. Guess what, same goes for success.  It is not a person. As we get older, gain more experience and gain more confident, you will realise that your failures are temporary and your successes do not define you completely as well.

3. They afraid to jump!

You have to jump to start living! If you don’t jump, you’re just existing.

To live life, you need to take some degree of risk! The fear of failure can sabotage a person. The fear of failure is deadweight of your potential. They will miss the great opportunity to win and achieve greatness!

Those who always jump first will get out on the edge of the comfort zone. That is the only way you will seize the opportunity. If you want to grow, you must embrace pain. If you want to unlock your potential, you will need to take chances and jump!  If you do not make that jump, you just existing in life! You choose!

 4. They let failure define them!

 Losing and winning are given event in life. Just because you lose today, it will NOT guarantee that you will lose tomorrow. But if you quit, it will guarantee that you will lose tomorrow! Whatever you do, do not every quite! However, you must prepare yourselves for failure. You should be ready to bounce back when it occur. That is what make the success worth it! Success without adversity is not a success.

Steve Davis

It may not be your fault for being down, but it is your fault for not getting up!

The content was taken from the Difference Makerwritten by John C. Maxwell and with a spice of my thought. Definitely, a book to read and highly recommended for those who want to learn to manage their attitude. My next post I will cover how can you prepare yourself to face failure! Follow my blog for more inspiration!



7 Great Steps to overcome Fear!


In my previous post, I wrote about The 5 Destructive Effect of Fear! Please do check it out to understand the impact of letting your fear to control you. Now I am going to cover the recovery side of fear. Here are the 7 great steps to overcome fear!

1. Admit your Fears

You cannot overcome fear unless you first need to acknowledge them. What you should do, you need to make a list of your fear. If you are unable to do so, you may be still running from those feeling. Hence, you need to observe of your feeling. If your heart race for no reason, you feel paralysed into inaction and you feel nervous for no reason. These are the response due to fear. Do not overthink, write your fear down first! That is the first step.

2. Determine the Source of your Fears

James Thurber

All men should strive to learn before they die what they are running away from and to and why.

Fear also is known as False Expectations Appear Real.  Most people`s fear is based not on facts, but on feeling. You need to look beyond the irrational feeling you may possess and discover the expectation that lies beneath them. Guess what, it does not exist! It is an imagination that created by the mind!

3. Acknowledge that fears limit you

J.H Newman.

Fear not that your life will come to an end but that it will never have a beginning.

That is what can happen if you let fear take over your life. Honestly, most of our fear are baseless. The rest are simple things we must learn to live with it. There are no guarantees in life. People look for things to protect them. It could be alarms, umbrellas, smartphone, GPS system, and cars with ABS system. Here is the fact, life is dangerous, damaging your health, and will eventually kill you. So you might as well live life to the fullest. Take that risk to overcome that fear!

4. Accept that Fear is the price of Growth

Steve Harvey

Believe it or not, every successful person in this world has jumped!

One of the secrets of success is not letting what you cannot interfere with what you can do. A strong proponent of positive thinking, Stone said that the secret to making sales was going where you do not want to go and doing what you do not want to do. You need to take that leap into the fear. Most importantly, do not let your fear keep you from taking small steps in your development. You never know where they might lead. It may unlock your potential within you.

5. Change fear into desire

Cus D’Amato

The hero and the coward both feel exactly the same fear, only the hero confronts his fear and converts into fire.

Every negative emotion we feel can be converted into something positive to help us to grow in life.

Fear of poverty? Convert it to a positive work ethic.

Fear of greediness? Convert it to generosity.

Fear of rejection? Convert it to acceptance.

Fear of insignificance? Convert it to service of others.

People can turn their life around them by takings the very thing that once created fear and using the energy to do something positive and worthwhile.  It is an always a choice to make to change your decision for a better option.

6. Focus on Things You can Control

There are always things that you cannot control in life. Guess what, there is no good reason to worry about those things. It can be very energy draining.

Harold Stephens.

There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem.

The right question to asked, What can I do to be a Problem Solver? Always focus on the things that you can control. To do that, there are 2 things. First is the attitude. As you interact with people, you cannot control their action. No matter how much you like it. But you can control your attitude. Boys react, men respond. The second part of it is your calendar. You may not be able to control today, but you can do your best to plan the time you have. Most people who fear the future so so because they do not prepare for it.

7. Feed the Good and Starve the Bad!

It is a battle between FEAR and FAITH. Either one will arise within you. It is your choice to choose which one will triumph. These emotions will always be presents in you. The emotion you continue to feed is the one that will control your life. You cannot expect fear to simply disappear. If you continue to focus on your fears and entertain them, they will increase. The way to handle it is to starve them. Do not give your fears any of your time or energy.  Do not feed them with gossip or negatives news. It can be very draining.

What you should do? Focus on your faith! Feed it with positive food. The more energy and time you give it. It will become stronger. At any point in time, if there is a spark of fear. Take action by go ahead and do it! By doing so, you are reprogramming your attitude. When there is fear, it means “GO” instead of “STOP”. When there is fear, it means “FIGHT HARDER” instead of “GIVE UP”.

Keep in mind, no matter how strong a hold fear may try to take on you, it can be overcome. Fear is just in mind and attitude can make a major difference.  Most importantly, do the work and take action!

If you are not in control of your fear, the fear are in control of you!



Get an accountability buddy to help you to beat that fear! He or She must not be afraid of the fear that you are facing. If you are afraid of heights, your buddy must not be afraid of heights. If you are afraid of thunder, your buddy must not be afraid of thunder as well.   Your buddy can help you to grow to faced fear. Your buddy can show you that it is alright to face it and the fear does not exist.

The content was taken from the Difference Makerwritten by John C. Maxwell and with a spice of my thought. Definitely, a book to read and highly recommended for those who want to learn to manage their attitude.

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The 5 Destructive effects of Fear.

Hello there! In my previous blog post, I wrote about problems, discouragement, and change. Now I am going to cover FEAR. My thanks to the book titled The Difference Maker by John C. Maxwell. Here are my take away from the book!

“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
Nelson Mandela

Let us first understand the effect of fear to our life. Every individual has that one fear that they do not want to others to know. It could be fear of public speaking, height, fear of making a decision and criticism. However, fear had its benefits. Fear helps to protect you from danger! When you walked in the dark, your senses heightened, your heart is pumping, and alertness boost up to detect any potential danger and risks!

If it is too much, it can be very destructive, and it can confine you from your greatest adventure. We learn to think every successful person somehow is exempt from fear, but nothing could be further from the truth. Fear is a natural part of the human condition. Guess what? Most fear is in your minds; it does not exist. There is a saying, FEAR is False Expectation Appearing Real.

Limits, like fear, is often an illusion.
Michael Jordan

Typically, as we grow up there is always worries on the responsibility we need to hold. Their worries will breed into fear. The common worries are finances, health, career challenges, family relationship, and accomplishing personal goals. These could be one of your fear as well. We need to overcome the fear! So, it is important to understand the consequences if we give in to fear.

1. Fear can breed more fear.
The most subtle thing about fear is its ability to exaggerate in our mind. We tendency to have an inappropriate sense of what is dangerous. Let me explain further, are you afraid of flying? Before you stepped on an aeroplane, you already think about an air crash. Do you know that more people died in a road accident compared to people were killed in air crashed? The odds of dying in a car accident to be 1 in 98 for a lifetime. For air and space transport (including air taxis and private flights), the odds were 1 in 7,178 for a lifetime. (Source: Is Air Travel Safer Than Car Travel?)

It is you that breed that fears. You project the coming catastrophe that will likely never happen. When the so-called disaster does not happen, you reckon, “Damn, that was close!”. Nevertheless, the fact is that your mind is the only thing creating the potential danger to you.

2. Fear cause inaction.
People who let some fear get hold of them find themselves progressively more fearful! Fear makes you afraid of doing something that might be good for you. You need to call for action to move into the unknown. That is scary. But, if you give in to your fear, you do not move ahead.

You will not receive any of the benefits. You will not gain the valuable experience that would prepare you better informed. As a consequence, you will remain ignorant about the area of life. Ignorance almost always breeds more fear! It will make it harder for you to go forward to learn and get things done!

Remember this, everything in life has some degree of risk. If you are too afraid of death, you will never live. If you are too afraid of struggle, you will never grow. If you are too afraid of failure, you probably never win.

3. Fear will weaken you.
The worst danger you may face is the risk of being paralysed by doubts and fear! It will cause a person to pass on the faith and dispel hope within them. It is brought on by those who spread cynicism and mistrust. They try to blind us to our great chance to do good for all humanity. It just can be either faith and fear.

Let’s look at FEAR!
Fear will weaken you.
Fear will imprison you.
Fear will paralyse you.
Fear will dishearten you.
Fear will sicken you.

Let’s look at FAITH!
Faith will strengthen you!
Faith will liberate you!
Faith will empower you!
Faith will encourage you!
Faith will heal you!

By reading the words above, you can feel the shift of energy after you read the part of FEAR then to the FAITH section! The worst part is when you use the energy to strike action! FEAR will cause you to react. FAITH will cause you to respond. A person cannot allow fear to master him and become the master of his strengths at the same time. You must master only one!

4. Fear Waste your energy.

Fear makes the wolf bigger than you are!

When you let fear take hold of you, you expend valuable energy in ways they should not. It will cause you to avoid the thing that does not harm you.
You have not taken action yet, but you already think about the fear of the solution to problems. In the end, the action is not taken. That fear may not be there.

Keep in mind; fear can push you in the wrong direction by producing tense energy that causes to do worst in every situation. It could even limit you to take action. Over a period. It will drain you and demotivate you.

5. Fear Limits your potential

One of the greatest mistakes in life is to be in constant fear of something that we make. Fear robs you of your potential. It makes us less than we are. People who rule by fear will play it safe. It is a pity because someone cannot reach their potential by remaining in the comfort zone. It is worse when they are keeping others from achieving their potential. When a leaders rules by fear, he become a lid to the people who follow him. Most people fail to realise their potential because their leaders are fearful! Leaders are the one who sets the culture, and they suppose to be fearless to face the threats from outside.I  had that fear when I wanted to start this blog too. I had that fear of not having time. Fear of being criticised for not being good enough. I had that fear terrible grammar. I was being scolded by English teacher before for simple grammar mistake. It will definitely limit my potential to write a blog. I have decided not to give in to fear! Hence, you are reading this blog, and I hope to add value to you!

Let’s us recap! If you give in to fear, it breeds more fear. Fear will cause you not to take action. Fear will weaken you to move forward. Fear waste your energy, and it fears limits your potential from greatness. Never give in to fear and overcome that fear you have all this while.

If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
Dale Carnegie

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5 Principles to Manage CHANGES in Life!

In my previous post, I wrote about DISCOURAGEMENT as one of the obstacles of the positive attitude. Now, I am going to cover CHANGE. The truth is we cannot move forward and remain the same. But why do we resist change? Let us discover why we resist change.

We resist change because of our personal loss. For everything, we gain we will lose something, and there is that fear that we need the things that we let go again. We fear the unknown. We often cling to the things we know, even though we are not satisfied with it.  Changes feel awkward as it feels different. This takes us out of the comfort zone. Another reason is the tradition. People may assume that if it is a tradition, it is the best way to do it. Hence, this restricts us to try out new ways. Tradition can be a good thing if it connects you with other people and personal history. If it not, that can be changed. That conversion will pop up in your head, “We have been doing that way all this while, and it works. Why do we need to change it?”

Change is going to happen anyway. We cannot control it. However, we can make a choice to respond to it!  We cannot become what we need by remaining what we are. If you desire growth, then you must embrace change. To deal change successfully, it is all about preparation and being positive to respond to it. Here are the 5 principles to manage the change.

  1. Change will happen whether you like it or not.

Whatever happen today, will change tomorrow. Change is unavoidable. It is a different world than it was twenty years ago, and it will be different in another twenty years. A great example is the usage of technology. 10 years ago, only people with luxury can afford a mobile phone, and it was not a necessity. Now time has changed, the mobile phone is a necessity to get connected locally and globally. The pay phone now it obsolete, we do not use that anymore. Then, we had keypad phone before we move to touch screen phone. We hardly find shops that sell keypad mobile phone although we want to buy one. Again, we cannot stop the change, it will come. Learn to accept it.

2. Without change, there can be no improvement.

Honestly, change can represent both possible opportunities and potential losses. If we decide to stay still, the growth is zero. Hence, we need to take action to embrace the change. We cannot become what we need by remaining what we are. It is all about perspective. If it is a great opportunity, we won. If it is a loss, you learn. With that experience, we know what works and what does not work. That lead to growth on the way we make a decision in the future. Learn to embrace it.

3. Make a commitment to pay the price for change.

Change always costs us something. It may not be in term of money, it may take time, energy and creativity. In fact, if change does not cost us anything, then it is not a real difference. The best way is to measure the cost of change compared to the expense of the status quo.

Let say you just change job from company A to company B. When you were working company A, you worked exactly 8 hours per day because you have that stability. You know the people, the work processes and the system. Now you are working for company B. You may need to invest extra hours in learning, potential additional late nights and sacrificing energy until you reach that stability similar when you were working for company A. That is the price all of us have to pay when we need to change.  Make a decision to look at the bright side that will make a difference between

Change = growth or change = grief

4. Change must happen within you before it can happen around you.

Time changes things, but we actually have to change them ourselves. Here is the fact, any change that occurs in the world always begins with change within an individual. Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. Once we dedicate ourselves to growth and develop a lifestyle of planned improvement from inside out, it will become routine to you. With that mindset in place, we can welcome any significant shift in life.

5. Make a decision on what you are NOT willing to change.

There are always things that we are not prepared to change. For me, no matter what, I will not change my faith in God as a Christian. I would rather die than forfeit my faith in God. I will not change my value that I hold dearly, which is accountability, integrity and valor. I will not change my life guiding principles such as to have faith and be honest. These are the things are not worth compromising. We need to identify this first. List down the things that you will not change. Then everything else should be open to change.

Do not be afraid to keep trying something new. All the things you love were once unknown to you.

The content was taken from the Difference Makerwritten by John C. Maxwell and with a spice of my thought. Definitely, a book to read and highly recommended for those who want to learn to manage their attitude.