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4 REASONS WHY PEOPLE HAVE THE CANNOT-DO ATTITUDE

They are two type of people in the world; the “CAN” and “CAN`T.” The first type of people can achieve anything. They have the positive mindset and the CAN-do attitude. The second type of people will fail everything. They did not even start, they just say it cannot be done. They see failure in every result. If you are able to handle failure well, you can keep yourself away from the CANNOT-do attitude.

Henry Ford;

If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.

The question is, WHY do people have the CANNOT-do attitude? John C. Maxwell breaks it down to four main reasons;

1. They expect to fail!

Usually, the people who keep failing are the ones who expect to fail. Even before they begin a task, they already see the failure instead of success first. They are like the pessimist whose with a name tag on, “I expected this to fail”. Their mindset was programmed to fail.

The Law of Human Behaviour

Sooner or later We will get what we expect!

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2. They take failure personally!

You cannot perform in a manner inconsistent with the way you see yourself. Everybody fails! But if they still continue to fail, they will expect to fail. In the end, they will label themselves as a failure. You need to understand there is a big difference between failing and being a failure.

If you want to maintain a good attitude and be successful, you cannot take your failure or even your success personally.  Failure is not so bad if it does not attack the heart. Success is all right if it does not go to the head. A failure is just an event. Guess what, same goes for success.  It is not a person. As we get older, gain more experience and gain more confident, you will realise that your failures are temporary and your successes do not define you completely as well.

3. They afraid to jump!

You have to jump to start living! If you don’t jump, you’re just existing.

To live life, you need to take some degree of risk! The fear of failure can sabotage a person. The fear of failure is deadweight of your potential. They will miss the great opportunity to win and achieve greatness!

Those who always jump first will get out on the edge of the comfort zone. That is the only way you will seize the opportunity. If you want to grow, you must embrace pain. If you want to unlock your potential, you will need to take chances and jump!  If you do not make that jump, you just existing in life! You choose!

 4. They let failure define them!

 Losing and winning are given event in life. Just because you lose today, it will NOT guarantee that you will lose tomorrow. But if you quit, it will guarantee that you will lose tomorrow! Whatever you do, do not every quite! However, you must prepare yourselves for failure. You should be ready to bounce back when it occur. That is what make the success worth it! Success without adversity is not a success.

Steve Davis

It may not be your fault for being down, but it is your fault for not getting up!

The content was taken from the Difference Makerwritten by John C. Maxwell and with a spice of my thought. Definitely, a book to read and highly recommended for those who want to learn to manage their attitude. My next post I will cover how can you prepare yourself to face failure! Follow my blog for more inspiration!

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5 Principles to Manage CHANGES in Life!

In my previous post, I wrote about DISCOURAGEMENT as one of the obstacles of the positive attitude. Now, I am going to cover CHANGE. The truth is we cannot move forward and remain the same. But why do we resist change? Let us discover why we resist change.

We resist change because of our personal loss. For everything, we gain we will lose something, and there is that fear that we need the things that we let go again. We fear the unknown. We often cling to the things we know, even though we are not satisfied with it.  Changes feel awkward as it feels different. This takes us out of the comfort zone. Another reason is the tradition. People may assume that if it is a tradition, it is the best way to do it. Hence, this restricts us to try out new ways. Tradition can be a good thing if it connects you with other people and personal history. If it not, that can be changed. That conversion will pop up in your head, “We have been doing that way all this while, and it works. Why do we need to change it?”

Change is going to happen anyway. We cannot control it. However, we can make a choice to respond to it!  We cannot become what we need by remaining what we are. If you desire growth, then you must embrace change. To deal change successfully, it is all about preparation and being positive to respond to it. Here are the 5 principles to manage the change.

  1. Change will happen whether you like it or not.

Whatever happen today, will change tomorrow. Change is unavoidable. It is a different world than it was twenty years ago, and it will be different in another twenty years. A great example is the usage of technology. 10 years ago, only people with luxury can afford a mobile phone, and it was not a necessity. Now time has changed, the mobile phone is a necessity to get connected locally and globally. The pay phone now it obsolete, we do not use that anymore. Then, we had keypad phone before we move to touch screen phone. We hardly find shops that sell keypad mobile phone although we want to buy one. Again, we cannot stop the change, it will come. Learn to accept it.

2. Without change, there can be no improvement.

Honestly, change can represent both possible opportunities and potential losses. If we decide to stay still, the growth is zero. Hence, we need to take action to embrace the change. We cannot become what we need by remaining what we are. It is all about perspective. If it is a great opportunity, we won. If it is a loss, you learn. With that experience, we know what works and what does not work. That lead to growth on the way we make a decision in the future. Learn to embrace it.

3. Make a commitment to pay the price for change.

Change always costs us something. It may not be in term of money, it may take time, energy and creativity. In fact, if change does not cost us anything, then it is not a real difference. The best way is to measure the cost of change compared to the expense of the status quo.

Let say you just change job from company A to company B. When you were working company A, you worked exactly 8 hours per day because you have that stability. You know the people, the work processes and the system. Now you are working for company B. You may need to invest extra hours in learning, potential additional late nights and sacrificing energy until you reach that stability similar when you were working for company A. That is the price all of us have to pay when we need to change.  Make a decision to look at the bright side that will make a difference between

Change = growth or change = grief

4. Change must happen within you before it can happen around you.

Time changes things, but we actually have to change them ourselves. Here is the fact, any change that occurs in the world always begins with change within an individual. Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. Once we dedicate ourselves to growth and develop a lifestyle of planned improvement from inside out, it will become routine to you. With that mindset in place, we can welcome any significant shift in life.

5. Make a decision on what you are NOT willing to change.

There are always things that we are not prepared to change. For me, no matter what, I will not change my faith in God as a Christian. I would rather die than forfeit my faith in God. I will not change my value that I hold dearly, which is accountability, integrity and valor. I will not change my life guiding principles such as to have faith and be honest. These are the things are not worth compromising. We need to identify this first. List down the things that you will not change. Then everything else should be open to change.

Do not be afraid to keep trying something new. All the things you love were once unknown to you.

The content was taken from the Difference Makerwritten by John C. Maxwell and with a spice of my thought. Definitely, a book to read and highly recommended for those who want to learn to manage their attitude.

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